Tag: transformation

A caterpillar's cocoon.

Be Happy That the Hardships Have Occurred

This is not to say be full of delight and dance with joy because of hardships. It is to say that you have two alternatives. One, you must understand that challenges will befall everyone because there are no trouble-free days. Still, that trouble and those hardship experience mean that life […]

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Scans of the human brain.

Transference and Transformation, From Grief to Power

It sounds crazy, but you have this ability. It comes down to your desire to do it. Grief is manifested through emotion, and emotions are energy that comes from our brains. The Amygdala region of our brain is responsible for driving emotions. If you have ever seen the Pixar cartoon Inside […]

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Get Out of Perceived Comfort to Find True Comfort

When faced with a challenge or a difficult period, people want to run to their comfort zone for safety’s sake. That perceived security gives a “temporary” feel-good that allows the feelings of safety to fool the person seeking its luxury. The problem is that some do not want to leave […]

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A woman with both arms raised, with her hands in fists, celebrating.

The Upside of Grief 

How in the world can you see any upside to grief? The answer is simple. You don’t. You just must acknowledge that the grief you are encountering exists, and then you must choose to use it or allow it to use you. Choice two is easy because it’s the one […]

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Grief Feeds on Sympathy

There is a period that sympathy is welcome when first going through a grieving period. After some time, grief catches on and starts to use it to keep you locked in its grip. Some people make the mistake of looking for sympathy over the long term, and when they cannot […]

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The Gains of Loss 

Changing perspective on a matter is a challenge. Seeing things in a better light amid the darkness can be difficult, but as Kevin Hart said, “You must wake up and give 100% every day” (Hart, 2018). I was listening to a podcast that used an example that presented total validity […]

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A man sit grieving while someone consoles him.

The Benefits of Getting Played. It is a Matter of Perspective

My wife of 17 years passed away, and I was devastated. About six months later, I finally cleaned out her side of the closet and received an absolute shock. I found her journal, which contained some past and recent history that destroyed me. Later, I brought my revelations to friends […]

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Blue skies with some clouds.

Losing Someone Can Become an Opportunity to Find Yourself

Rewarding and easy do not go hand and hand, but it puts the griever in an excellent position to find themselves. Life is not simple, and your grief brings that to the forefront of your mind. You can no longer pretend, procrastinate, be like others, or be like your former self […]

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